Advice for the lovelorn.
(For confidentiality purposes, names in the following letters have been changed.)
Holly,
Do you have advice for someone who is dating and noticing a boyfriend/girlfriend's profile is still posted after you have a commitment to each other? What is the best way to ask why the profile is still visible?
Thanks
Hidden Profile
Dear Hidden Profile:
There are multiple reasons why your new mate has not concealed their profile. He or she:
A) Has not had the time to remove the profile
B) Is not computer savvy
C) Has forgotten about the profile
D) Does not know how to "hide" their profile
E) Is waiting to see how things work out with you
Do not jump to conclusions. In a subtle manner, let your mate know that you removed your profile. Ask if they plan to hide their profile and if they need help concealing it. If the profile remains visible after your conversation, it could be a warning sign for a potential problem.
-Holly
Dear Holly
My husband died 10 yrs. ago. I decided to do this Internet thing (smile). I have not had a problem with men responding. But, I have a problem with ALL the guys wanting me to call them...I am not in the habit of making phone calls, not to mention the cost...
When I offer my phone number, they make it clear that they don't want to call me. They're too lazy to communicate via the internet. Then, they are online trying to find a woman.
I am 56 years old, what do you advise?
Thanks,
Contact-Friendly
Dear CF:
Tell your new suitors in a very nice way that although online dating is a modern concept, your values remain traditional. You are not accustomed to initiating contact and "dates." If you define your dating boundaries up front, you will meet a better caliber of men while weeding out the undesirables.
Happy Matching Up,
Holly
Holly
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