Newsletters - Dating Q & A
To Tell or Not to Tell
To Tell or Not to Tell |
| Advice for the lovelorn. (For confidentiality purposes, names in the following letters have been changed.) To Tell or Not to Tell Q. Dear Rosie, I'm in college and joined iMatchup in September. I found I wasn't making as many friends offline. It really helped me boost my confidence in talking to people on the site and then we'd actually meet. I've made some great friends! I've been romancing this girl for a few weeks (November 4 was the first message) and we've met in person and we really get along great! I know I'm falling hard for her but here's my situation - I am 21 years old and before college and before iMatchup I never went out with a girl. I'm not a freak or anything I just was really shy around women before this year and I haven't done anything but kiss the girl I'm dating now. I don't know how to tell her or if I should tell her how inexperienced I am because I don't want her to think I'm weird for that. What should I do? Thanks, The 21-year-old Virgin A. Dear The 21-year-old Virgin, First of all you should be very proud of the fact that in today's society you have chosen to wait to meet someone special to want to have sex. If any woman thinks that you are weird for that than she is really just a girl and it is better to find out before you do something with her that you may later regret. Telling your partner that you are a virgin can be nerve racking but it will be worth it. She may even be relieved so that she doesn't feel pressured or as some do even obligated to have sex before she may be ready in the relationship. Talk to her about this in person and start by letting her know your feelings for her and than ease into letting her know that you have not yet experienced sex and when you are both ready and if only if you want to that you would like to share that experience with her. Don't worry about when that time finally comes. Make sure that you are ready emotionally and make sure that you use protection always! Your first time should be something that you want to remember fondly for the rest of your life not something you jumped into to please someone else. Becoming sexually intimate with someone comes with a lot of emotional and physical feelings that you may have not experienced before. Make sure to communicate with your partner what you're feeling. Good Luck and Keep Me Posted! Rosie, The Love Vixen If you have a question on life or love send your thoughts to AskUs@iMatchup.com. |
