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Dating After 37 Year Break
Dating After 37 Year Break |
| Advice for the lovelorn. (For confidentiality purposes, names in the following letters have been changed.) Dating After 37 Year Break Q. Dear Rosie, I haven't been on a date in a little while...well more then a little while - 37 years to be precise. I am a widow of 4 years and with some prodding from my kids and friends I am going to venture into the world of dating. I'm a little scared though because times have definately changed since I dated my high school sweetheart. He was the love of my life and I am not looking for someone to replace him in my heart just someone else to share room in my heart. Do you have any tips on a second round first time dater? p.s. Keep up the great work. Sincerely, Room in My Heart A. Dear Room in My Heart, You are a strong woman to want to have someone else share your heart with you. Good for you for listening to your kids and friends with getting back out there. Regardless of whether you are a first time dater or someone who hasn't dated in a little while one thing remains the same with us all - we're all daters and none of us are perfect at it. Here are some great ways to help you get started back in dating! Confidence: Confidence, confidence, confidence! Nothing is more attractive than a person who is confident in his or her own skin. Once you are happy in your own skin and self-fulfilled, you will attract the matches you deserve, not just the ones you settle for. So relax and be your genuine self. Be Interesting: Read the newspaper and know what's going on in the world. Current events are great conversation starters. Interesting conversation will attract others to start talking to you. Increase Your Chances: Don't limit yourself by dating and approaching one type of person. Don't pass on someone until you get to know them. Love happens at the most unexpected times with the most unexpected people! Use Great Props: Never leave your home without a prop -dogs, kids, unusual jewelry, a fabulous scent, a sweatshirt with your favorite passion, interesting ties, hats, or an interesting book or newspaper. Props can break the ice and help in starting up a conversation. Network: Just as you network with your friends, colleagues and family for work, you can call on them to network for you on your dating quest. Be Honest: Be yourself from the start. People can always sense when you are not being 100% honest and it is a turn off and leaves people feeling weary of you. Be Proactive: Go after what you want. You have nothing to lose by trying, so get out there. Stay Positive and Have Fun: Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability. Start a Conversation: The best opening line is saying hello. Talk about the surroundings, ask a question, ask for help, or state an opinion. Be Patient: The first person (or second or third) you connect with may not be the right one for you. Have patience and realize that you may need to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince (or princess)! Also check out this weeks Dating Etiquette for Dating Survival Guide tips! Good Luck and Keep Me Posted! Rosie, The Love Vixen If you have a question on life or love send your thoughts to AskUs@iMatchup.com. |
