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| Advice for the lovelorn. (For confidentiality purposes, names in the following letters have been changed.) Visiting Ex Q. Dear Rosie, I find myself not sure who to ask so I come to you for assistance with my dating dilemma. Here goes - I recently began dating a great guy and we've only been dating for a few weeks now so it's still quite new but he told me that this coming weekend his friends from out of town will be staying at his house including his ex-girlfriend of several months. As this is a new relationship I don't want to say anything that would make me appear as the jealous girlfriend type because I'm not as I know that he wouldn't do anything with her but it is just something that bothers me and I don't know how to approach it. Do you have any suggestions so that I don't come across as the jealous girlfriend but can get my point across? I just really don't know what to say. Thanks, Not Jealous in Florida A. Dear Not Jealous in Florida, I've said it countless times but communication is the key to a successful relationship and it is good that you want to communicate your feelings and needs to him this early in a relationship. The key to not coming across as a jealous girlfriend is to let him know that you don't think anything will happen but that you do feel uncomfortable with the situation and that you would like to talk about it. That will open the door to let him know where you are at and also what he is thinking of the situation. He might not have even thought anything of it if they are just friends now. If he cares about you I'm sure he wouldn't have a problem with you staying over too or even suggesting that they stay elsewhere. Once you meet the ex-girlfriend you will probably realize that you were concerned for nothing. He's with you now right! There's a reason she's his ex and you are his girlfriend. Good Luck and Keep Me Posted!! Rosie, The Love Vixen If you have a question on life or love send your thoughts to AskUs@iMatchup.com. |
