Newsletters - Dating Q & A
Wants Out
Wants Out |
| Advice for the lovelorn. (For confidentiality purposes, names in the following letters have been changed.) Wants Out Q. Dear Rosie, I've been dating this guy for about 9 months and we moved in together about 2 months ago but I've come to realize that this guy is really not the guy for me. I mean when I look at him I don't love him. I am 28 years old and am at the point in my life where I really can't see myself settling down and having a future (marriage and kids) with this man. I don't think that I would have a problem with it but we moved here together and he has had a hard time making new friends and he's a little depressed and I feel guilty leaving him. He's a nice guy just not for me and I don't know what to do. Sincerely, Guilty Not in Love A. Dear Guilty Not in Love, This is a delicate situation for you to be in if you feel that your boyfriend is depressed however you need to put yourself first. Life is about choices and as much as you feel that it is your responsibility to stay with this guy because he has a lack of friends in a new town that is not your responsibility. You need to let your guy know what your feelings are that you do not see a future together and that you don't love him anymore. It's ok that you are not in love with him anymore. People fall in and out of love on this planet everyday…it is what you decide to do once you realize it that matters. Talk to him and let him know but I strongly suggest that the two of you make plans to stop living together. If it can be an amicable arrangement where you can each live your own life until one of you is financially able to move out then do so but do not stay in the same bedroom let alone bed. If, the situation once broken up becomes one that you cannot stay together then look to friends and family for support and to stay with while you get on your feet. Do what you need to do to get out of this relationship. Good Luck and keep me posted! Rosie, The Love Vixen If you have a question on life or love send your thoughts to AskUs@iMatchup.com. |
