Newsletters - Dating Q & A
Wanting to Be Noticed
Wanting to Be Noticed |
| Advice for the lovelorn. (For confidentiality purposes, names in the following letters have been changed.) Wanting to Be Noticed Q. Dear Rosie, I've been in the online dating scene on iMatchup for only a short time and haven't had much luck yet. Sure, I've gone out on several dates and met some great friends from it but I'm really looking for something more. The thing is that I have a hard time talking about myself in my profile and I'm not sure where to start on things. I don't want to do the cheesy I like long walks and going for movies. I just don't know what grabs the ladies attention from anyone else's. I have a photo posted and I send out messages it just seems that people aren't clicking on my profile. So my question to you is do you have any suggestions for me on where to start on my profile so that I can stand out? Sincerely, Wanting to Be Noticed A. Dear Wanting to Be Noticed, Once your headline makes someone want to learn more about you, the trick is to keep his or her attention. Don't feel like you have to sell yourself; just be open and honest. Ask a friend to help you write your profile, and have another friend read it afterwards. Keep the following advice in mind to help you create a winning profile. Get to the point! Avoid beginning by complaining about how hard it is to write a profile or find a quality mate; everyone here has to do just that. Dive right into describing yourself and what makes you tick. Focus on your strengths! Write about your hobbies, involvement in your community, interesting work or travels-whatever it is that makes you special. Think about your ideal match, and write as though you're talking specifically to that person. Be honest! An "avid tennis player" is not someone who started taking lessons last weekend. The walk from your desk to the parking lot-no matter how briskly you do it-does not count as "exercises daily". Remember that your match will assume everything you write to be true; once you decide to meet offline, you don't want any uncomfortable surprises. Be realistic! The words you choose can alienate potential matches, so go easy on phrases like "drop-dead gorgeous" and "looking for the perfect mate." Set your expectations high, but keep them real too. Describe what's important to you! Don't be afraid to mention qualities that are important to you in a relationship; loyalty, the ability to communicate and listen, intelligence and humor are good examples. Put those qualities front and center, and avoid emphasizing characteristics that are less important to you. Give some thought to why your best relationships have worked well and why the worst worked so badly; maybe you'll discover a pattern there. Good Luck and keep me posted! Rosie, The Love Vixen If you have a question on life or love send your thoughts to AskUs@iMatchup.com. |
