Newsletters - Dating Q & A
Multiple Dater
Multiple Dater |
| Advice for the lovelorn. (For confidentiality purposes, names in the following letters have been changed.) Multiple Dater Q. Hi Rosie, I am in a dilemma, and hopefully you folks can shed some light on this and ease my mind. I have sent out a number of emails to women after reading their profiles (the old adage the more fishing lines in the water the better your chances). At this time I have 3 women that I am interested in and have shown interest in me. At this point I have not met any of them and I am in contact with one via phone and the other two via email. What is expected of one when corresponding with multiple people at the same time? I don't really know any of them yet I feel guilty that I am conversing with all of them trying to find out if we are compatible. Do you just pick one person? And If it doesn't work out you go back to the website later? Once conversing with one or more, do you turn off your profile? Or do you keep monitoring the website for possible matches? Do you tell anyone that you go out with that you are dating others until you become exclusive (new term for me) to someone. I am not someone that is interested in dating lots of women. Just want to find one that is compatible with me for a LTR. There must be other guys out there in the same situation, that just want to know what is the right thing to do. Thanks for your time! Multiple Confusion A. Dear Multiple Confusion, There is such a thing as online dating etiquette although there are no fixed rules on it either. The only rule that you really have to follow when talking and/or dating multiple people online is the same one you should follow if doing that offline - to be honest! Obviously it is not required when you are first messaging someone to tell them that you are talking to other people - that seems to be the norm. Why else would you be here? You do however have an obligation to be honest to someone that you begin to date more seriously though - otherwise it can just end up in hurt on both sides. The easiest way to break it down is to treat people the way you would want to be treated if you were in their shoes. When would you want to know? As for going back to the website later - of course you can! That's what life is all about! In the offline world, would you stop dating other people you meet through friends, work, etc just because one didn't work out? You need to find the person that is right for you! Good Luck and keep me posted! Rosie, The Love Vixen If you have a question on life or love send your thoughts to AskUs@iMatchup.com. |
