Newsletters - Dating Q & A
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| Last week Lonesome wanted to know if she should contact a friend after no contact for over a year. I received many responses to Lonesome's plight and wanted to share this special message to Lonesome from one of our members. I have to agree with your answer to this dear Lady, she should not let life pass her by... at all! I further agree she should make contact, as she could feel later on that it might be the biggest mistake (she may feel that), but in essence she will know for sure once contact is made with her friend. But... on the other hand, she should try to make new friends, which is why I myself joined iMatchup, I feel this is a truly wonderful way to make new friends, both on and offline! =o) "Lonesome, my Dear Friend, follow your heart... make that contact with your friend, I am willing to bet your friend is wanting you to make the next contact, and as The Love Vixen said, in the end it will be worth it... I just know it, I say that because by what I seen, you both have so much in common... and it shows when I read between the lines"!! =o) God Bless You, Lonesome! And God Bless You, Vixen!" Big 'virtual' hugzzz, QwietGuy43 Q. Dear Love Vixen I am a very shy, nervous person. Every time I go out to have fun with my friends and we try to get hooked we always go to dance clubs since they are pretty cool places to go to have fun. My friends were teaching me to learn how to behave and act around women and what to say before going up to them carefully. I did try using their skills and they still didn't work out. Especially they always want to be with their boyfriends every single time, too! Well right now I'm just being friends to a female who someday I hope I can take to the next level. So what can I do to solve these problems before I go out and with my friends next time, please? Shy Guy, A. Dear Shy Guy, The most important thing that you have to remember is that you need to be yourself. You need to be confident in who you are before you will be able to attract the right person for you. What may work for your friends in trying to pick up girls may not work for you…if you are a shy person as I am I know that I fumble words when I meet someone that I would like to get to know better. Here's a few tips that I have learned along the way in my dating life. Make eye contact - hold it for at least 10 seconds Walk tall - even if you are shy you can look confident with your head held high Think Positive - If you start too feel really nervous just take a deep breath and think positive. Create a mantra that will help you in these situations like "I can do this". Be Yourself - Don't use cheesy pickup lines when meeting a girl. Introduce yourself and be honest. Overplaying who you are can come back to haunt you in the future if you want a relationship with the girl You obviously have great friends who love you but you need to remember the reasons why you like yourself and why others like you and once you do you won't be as shy. If meeting someone at a nightclub is still a bit tricky for you try meeting people on line at first. It is a shy persons haven and you can always invite new friends from your area to meet you at clubs or even a date. Check out this weeks Dating Etiquette for reasons why shy guys and girls are great online! Some women and men often get intimidated by being approached by a person when they are coming from a group of friends standing at a bar. They may not take it seriously and feel that it is a game that you and your friends may be playing. Rosie, The Love Vixen Resident experts Rosie the LoveVixen and Stephanie the Match Maven will answer all your questions about love and romance. Send your questions to AskUs@iMatchup.com. |
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