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Advice for the lovelorn.
Advice for the lovelorn. |
| Advice for the lovelorn. (For confidentiality purposes, names in the following letters have been changed.) Holly, I love the online dating environment. I tried it years ago when almost no one posted a photo and there was no organization in the "profiling." Now you can see the person and learn interesting things about them before initiating contact. My problem is that I'm 52 and I still feel 42. I'm an attractive man, so I don't think that my appearance is a problem. However, I have sent very polite e-notes to many women aged, 35 to 45 years old and I get no replies. Most of the time, I just say something like, "I think you're cute and I really enjoyed your profile. Would you like to correspond?" I get NOTHING! Do women that age think I'm a dirty old man? How do I overcome this? TheTexMax Dear Mr. The TexMax: I am confident that women do not think you are a "dirty old man." It sounds like you're not getting responses because of your "polite e-notes". It sounds like your email introduction could use a makeover. Because you mentioned you are enjoying the profiles of your ideal matches, why don't you refer to their profiles. In example, a note that reads: Hi: I noticed you on iMatchup.com. In your profile, you mentioned that you are looking for a man with a good sense of humor. What a coincidence! I am in quest of a woman to laugh at my jokes. When would it be a good time for you to meet me for a chat-room date? Your email will get a better response if you include a commonality, and then assume the sale. In your email introduction, you are setting yourself up for rejection by writing, "would you correspond." By writing, "when would it be a good time for you to meet me for a chat-room date," your email will demonstrate confidence and pique your love interest's curiosity to respond. Please let us know how your response level improves, Holly Dear Holly, I've liked this guy for a long time, but I don't know if he likes me. Do you have any tips on how I can find out? Crush Struck Dear Crush Struck: If he has been making excuses to be in your presence, the feelings might be mutual. The next time you see him, strike up a conversation about his job or something general in his life. Let him do the majority of the talking while you interject questions about him. Use the excuse that you are planning on getting a group of people together for an activity and would he like to bring his girlfriend. This way, you can first determine if he is involved with anyone. If he says that he is not dating anyone, find out why and what his type is. The way he answers the questions will determine whether there is a love connection. -holly Holly www.fruitionmedia.net Ask Holly is written by Holly Bentz, President of fruitionMedia.net. Share your online dating stories with us. (If we use your letter, we will not include your name or member information.) Email letters should be sent to AskHolly@iMatchup.com. Due to the high volume of emails, not all letters will be answered. For more advice on dating, check out The Dating Intelligence Report. |
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