DATING TIPS & HINTS
Six Sure-Fire Steps to Become a Love Magnet
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May-31-2003 Do you want to attract true love or improve your relationship so that it turns into true love? Then you may want to become a love magnet. You deserve to be loved! I will show you how to attract true love by looking and growing within yourself. Although you're seeking love from another person, you will be more likely to get the love and attention you deserve by first growing within. Here are the six steps you need to take to help you grow in just the right way. The steps will groom you to attract and engender love. 1. Figure out your relationship patterns. If you are not attracting the right partners or not getting enough love in your relationship, it's probably not the first time in your life. If that's the case, then it's likely you have relationship patterns that are preventing you from attracting the right partner or preventing you from behaving in a way that causes love. Get to know your relationship pattern and your love life will improve. Take my "Getting Complete." 2. Delve into your needs. Everyone has needs -- that's a part of human nature. In fact, our needs create relationships. The giver and the receiver both feel better and more connected when each other's needs are voiced and met. Yet most of us are uncomfortable asking others to meet our needs. At the same time, we all enter relationships to get our needs met. See the paradox? Figure out your needs, and then figure out which ones need to be met by your partner and which ones need to be met by other people. Get them met! Read how to recognize and get your needs met in my article, "Needs." 3. Draw your boundaries. Boundaries are there to protect you and to help you honor your needs and wants. You know you have boundaries when you can choose to say yes or no to something, someone, or a situation. You know you have boundaries when you can stop a situation that is hurting you. You know you have boundaries when you know your needs and ask others to respect them. Having boundaries makes you discerning, gives you self-respect, and inspires others to both respect you and treat you well. To learn more about boundaries, read my article, "Setting Boundaries." 4. Know what you want. Know what you want in a partner and in a relationship. Be careful that what you want is not a fantasy, unrealistic standards of perfection, or a set of low expectations. Look at the relationships you value most and model your love relationship after those. Keep out people who are not a match, invite in those who are. Stop doing behaviors that sabotage what you want in your relationship and instead take action to create what you want. To figure out what you want in a relationship, read my article, "Clarifying Who You Are Seeking." 5. Get connected. Build a community. Get people into your life to meet your needs, to support you, to nourish you. Many people want to simply find "the one" or hope they have found "the one," and then proceed to isolate themselves. What a stress on a relationship! Can you put all of your needs, wants, desires, and interests on one person? Do you think all of your needs will somehow be met by one Prince or Princess Charming? We all need community. We have too many needs for one person to meet them all. Get connected, and stay connected. For ideas on how to build community, go here. Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries (c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002. Do you know how to attract your ideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries can teach you the skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visit http://www.whatittakes.com/Archive/. where you'll find quizzes, classes, advice and a free weekly ezine. Become a "true love magnet(tm)!" |
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