DATING TIPS & HINTS
First Dates
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Oct-18-2004 Whether it happens when you’re sixteen or sixty, going on a first date is one of the best ways I know to get your adrenaline flowing and your heart pumping. Even if you’ve gotten to know your date through e-mail and then on the phone, there’s something about the first meeting that makes your heart pound, your palms sweat, and your mouth go dry. People always ask me where they should go on a first date. Since I know that many of you, as a result of using this wonderful site will be going out with someone brand new in your life, I thought I’d give you some good sound advice about your first date. It’s a good idea to stay away from very noisy places. You’ll want to be somewhere where you can have a conversation without straining to hear or having to yell over the noise of the crowd. I also advise against going to a movie on your first date. The movies may have been a safe bet when you were in high school, not having to worry about what to say to keep a conversation going. But, as an adult trying to find a compatible mate, you want to spend your first meeting getting to know each other. It is a waste of your time and money sitting in a movie theater where you can’t interact or look at each other. If you are too uncomfortable sitting in a café talking for an hour and a half or two hours and feel you need some form of entertainment to take the pressure off, there are many other activities where you’ll be entertained and still able to get to know each other. 1) At a sporting event you can at least talk about the action and cheer your team. 2) Going bowling, playing miniature golf, shooting a game of pool, going to a video arcade or an amusement park or just taking a row boat onto a lake, are all fun activities where you can have a good time and get to know someone. 3) Visiting a museum, going to the zoo or to the beach, or visiting an aquarium are all good choices as well. Remember that the purpose of the first date is not romance, it is discovery. Ideally, you want to have the opportunity to learn about each other in a comfortable setting for both of you. Here’s to a wonderful first date. Dr. Ellen Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D. is the author of the Light His Fire, Light Her Fire and Single No More Programs. To sign up for Dr. Ellen’s FREE weekly advice column go to www.LightYourFire.com |
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